“During a tough time, a friend asked me how I was doing and I deflected with my usual disclaimer. I said it was tough but I acknowledged that people were suffering much more than me.
My friend, though, saw right through me. He said, that’s a terrible way to look at it. Acknowledging that I have problems is not the same as discounting other people’s problems. We are not in a competition for who has it worst. It’s ok if your problems are really hard for you.”